Feeling negative emotions
Emotions, negative or positive come in waves.
They come to our awareness and then in time they go back to neutrality.
For example, something good happens to you and you feel extremely excited about it.
Then, after a while the excitement goes back to neutrality, in other words, you don’t feel the excitement all the time.
That’s is the natural way of feeling emotions.
The same process happens with negative emotions such as Anger, Sadness, Fear, Frustration. You feel them and then they go back to neutrality.
Of course, no one likes to feel these negative emotions even if you know they are part of being human.
The danger is when you ignore negative emotions, when you try not to feel them, when you suppress them.
When you dismiss them as nothing serious. Ignoring negative emotion won’t make them go away.
On the contrary, they will stay inside, unresolved.
So, when life happens in a way you don’t like it and you feel another negative emotion and do nothing about it, it becomes unresolved like the one you had felt before.
And if you carry on this path, you will in time have a breakdown.
Keeping negative emotions bottled up will have a great impact on your mental health and what you want is to have resilience, to have the strength to keep going, to keep achieving your goals and to have mental fitness.
Perhaps now you are wondering how to deal with negative emotions.
First of all, feel them.
As you may know, I think we all have an internal thermometer that measures the temperature of our emotions.
This internal thermometer is in the body where you feel your emotions either negative or positive.
For instance, my thermometer in my stomach; that’s where I feel the butterflies or the knot.
Second, find your thermometer; find where in your body you feel your emotions.
It can be in your stomach, perhaps it’s in your heart or even in your throat, the lump you cannot swallow.
Third, pay attention to the temperature of the emotion; pay attention to the anger, sadness, anxiety, frustration.
If the temperature is above your normal or if you feel uncomfortable, stop what you are doing and acknowledge the emotion.
Ask yourself “how can I change this emotion” and perhaps “who can help me?”
And finally, take action, let it go. Pay attention to your thermometer and notice when the temperature of any particular emotion is back to neutral.
Let’s take action right now.
Don’t ignore negative emotions.
Feel them, acknowledge them, resolve them, until the temperature of your emotions is in neutral.
This way you build up resilience and strength for when life happens.
If the temperature of your negative emotion is too high for you to deal with it, then let’s have a chat.
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