How to overcome different values and beliefs
We all experience reality in different ways.
We all see the world with different eyes.
And consequently, because of that, we all have different beliefs.
But, and yes there is a but, can you have a good professional relationship with someone who has completely different beliefs from yours?
And the answer is “Yes”.
Yes, you can have a good professional relationship with someone who has completely different beliefs from your own.
Before I tell you how to let me just explain that I have specifically chosen professional relationships because more often than not we cannot choose who we work with.
We cannot choose our co-workers.
And furthermore, we cannot always afford to choose our clients.
So let’s focus on having a good professional relationship with someone whose beliefs are yours.
So how do we do it?
First of all, you need to really understand and use these tips that I am giving you.
We all see the world with different eyes and we all have different beliefs.
And “Different is not wrong.
So the First Step is:
- Before you sit down at a meeting, virtual or not;
- before you send that email;
- before you make that phone call;
- before you send that proposal,
Keep the fact that we all have different beliefs in mind.
And importantly that “Different” is not wrong.
The Second Step is:
- Accept this concept as a fact!
- We are all different.
- And when you accept that and you keep doing that, you will notice a change.
- You will notice that in time your perception about other people will shift.
The Third Step, and in my opinion the most important step is:
- Be Flexible, have flexibility.
- Flexibility gives you clarity about your boundaries.
- That boundary line you absolutely do not cross.
And also the line you are willing to expand or the so-called “Go the extra mile”.
Now perhaps you are wondering why you would have trouble accepting the fact that we are all different.
You do this to avoid conflict.
Conflict leads to stress.
And I think it is fair to say that your ultimate goal is to keep stress under control.
So here is the challenge for this week.
And I am well aware that this challenge is a challenge in itself, especially if you are not used to the idea that we all experience reality in different ways.
And therefore we have different beliefs.
So think about a person that you work with or even a client that you have.
And notice what you feel inside.
Notice that internal thermometer that we all have that measures the temperature of our emotions.
So when you think about this co-worker or client notice if the temperature of your emotions goes up.
And then you use those three steps.
And see how you feel.
So just to remind you:
- Step One, keep the fact that we all have different beliefs and that “Different” is not wrong.
- Step Two, Accept this fact and in time you will notice your perception will shift.
- Step Three, be Flexible about your boundaries.
In time and if you do it often enough, you will notice that your perception of that particular person will change and shift.
And you will be able to have a good professional relationship with somebody whose beliefs are different from yours.
And if just the thought of doing this challenge makes the temperature of your emotions go up, then you know what to do.
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