Asking opinions helps when you doubt: explaining the problem and getting a different perspective of it can help you win insecurity and limiting beliefs.

Isolation creates limiting beliefs, insecurity and lack of confidence.

Connection creates confidence, motivation, resources and positive outcomes.

Today, I would like to talk to you about two concepts.

Isolation versus Connection.

By isolation, I don’t mean someone’s decision to move to a remote part of the country.  Not at all.

By Isolation I mean when we get drawn inside our own heads.

We can isolate ourselves even when living in a very big city.

All of us, at one point or another of our lives, have had moments of doubt. Especially when you are doing something new something outside our comfort zone.

If we get too much inside our heads, if we isolate ourselves, we may feel stuck.

Especially when we are trying or experimenting with different things to resolve the problem.

When we isolate ourselves and become stuck inside our heads we create limiting beliefs.

We say things to ourselves like:

“I’m not good enough”.
“Can’t solve a simple problem, I’m so stupid”.
“This is rubbish, I’m an idiot, I can’t get anything right”.

When you do that what happens is you become very insecure and lose your confidence.

You get stuck.

The way to get unstuck is to get out of your head.

You can only get out of your head when you connect with someone else.

Ask for someone’s opinion.

When you ask for someone’s opinion, you explain the problem and the other person will give you their perspective of the problem.

As you well know, every one of us has a different way of experiencing reality. So, this person will offer you a different perspective.

The outcome of the conversation will always be positive because you will either accept the suggestion and perhaps you will say:

“That’s it, I can adapt. This is what I was looking for”.

Or you may say:

“No, not at all, this is not what I want. I want something else”.

Either way, you are learning, either way, the outcome is positive.

Because even though you may disagree, the person’s opinion may trigger something in your head to find a solution.

You may even ask another person.

So, when your mind is focused on the solution to the problem, you then have confidence and motivation because you are now constantly searching for the solution to the problem.

There is no room then from limiting beliefs, lack of confidence and insecurity.

I personally believe that we were not born to be isolated.

I believe that we thrive when we connect to others and to Nature.

So, it is always a good idea to pay attention to whether you are spending too much time in your own head.

Talk to people.

Listen to other people’s opinions and their way of seeing the world.

You may agree or disagree but you will always learn something.

As you well know, the human brain was designed to adapt and learn.

Now if by any chance you are stuck within your own head, then let’s have a chat.

Get in touch with me.

Sign up for a free consultation or send me a message.

And as we are talking about connection then please share this blog, so that others can benefit from it.

I’m Regina helping you to be true to yourself.

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